PERSONAL SAFETY PLAN
YOU HAVE THE RIGHT TO BE SAFE!
II. SAFETY WHEN PREPARING TO LEAVE.
A. Open a savings account and/or credit card in your own name to start to establish or increase your own independence. Think of other ways in which you can increase your independence.
B. Leave money, extra set of keys, copies of important documents, extra medicines and clothes with someone
you trust so you can leave quickly.
C. Determine who would be able to let you stay with them or lend you some money.
D. Keep the shelter or hotline number close at hand and keep some change or a calling card on you at all times for emergency phone calls.
E. Review your safety plan as often as possible in order to plan the safest way to leave your batterer. REMEMBER - LEAVING YOUR BATTERER IS THE MOST DANGEROUS TIME.
III. SAFETY IN YOUR OWN HOME.
A. Change the locks on your doors as soon as possible. Buy additional locks and safety devices to secure your windows.
B. Discuss a safety plan with your children for when you are not with them.
C. Inform your children's school, day care, etc., about who has permission to pick up your children.
D. Inform neighbors and landlord that your partner no longer lives with you and that they should call the police if they see him near your home.
E. Never call the abuser from your home. If he has caller ID, he may be able to locate your residence.
IV. SAFETY WITH A PROTECTIVE ORDER.
A. Keep your protective order on you at all times. (When you change your purse, that should be the first thing that goes in it.)
B. Call the police if your partner breaks the protective order.
C. Think of alternative ways to keep safe if the police do not respond right away.
D. Inform family, friends, and neighbors that you have a protective order in effect.
V. SAFETY ON THE JOB AND IN PUBLIC.
A. Decide who at work you will inform of your situation. This should include office or building security (provide a picture of your batterer if possible).
B. Arrange to have someone screen your telephone calls if possible.
C. Devise a safety plan for when you leave work. Have someone escort you to your car. Use a variety of routes to go home if possible. Think about what you would do if something happened going home (i.e., in your car, on the bus, etc.)
VI. YOUR SAFETY & EMOTIONAL HEALTH.
A. If you are thinking of returning to a potentially abusive situation, discuss an alternate plan with someone you trust.
B. If you have to communicate with your partner, determine the safest way to do so.
C. Have positive thoughts about self and be assertive with others about your needs.
D. Read books, articles, and poems to help you feel strong.
E. Decide who you can call to talk freely and openly to give you the support you need.
F. Plan to attend a women's or victim's support group for at least 2 weeks to gain support from others and learn more about yourself and the relationship.
VII. IF YOU ARE A TEEN IN A VIOLENT DATING RELATIONSHIP.
A. Decide which friend, teacher, relative, or police officer you can tell.
B. Contact an advocate at the Court to decide how to obtain a protective order and make a safety plan.
CHECKLIST - WHAT YOU NEED TO TAKE WHEN YOU LEAVE:
Child's birth certificate
Your birth certificate
Social security card
Money and/or credit cards
Lease, rental agreement, house deed
YOUR PROTECTIVE ORDER
Car registration and insurance papers
Health and life insurance papers
Medical records (all family members)
Work permits/Green card/Visa
House and car keys
Small sellable objects
Pictures of you, your children
Child's small toys
Change of clothes for you and your children
FOR MORE INFORMATION
Contact one of the following numbers:
|24 HOUR EMERGENCY HOTLINES|
|Battered Women's SAFELINE||1/800-522-7233|
|Child Abuse Hotline||1/800-422-4453|
|Elder Abuse/Adult Protective Svcs||1/800-522-3511|
|Oklahoma Indian Legal Services||1/800-658-1497|
|Legal Aid of Western Oklahoma||1/800-421-1641|
|Legal Services of Eastern Oklahoma||1/800-299-3338|